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Her Private Life: Episode 12 Live Recap

Her Private Life Recap episode 12
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Was that a boo-hoo booty call last night by our director? Because it had all the makings of one. Let’s find out! We’ll probably get started on this recap a bit earlier than normal. We are hoping we can be close to live, maybe like 8-ish am CST? We’ll update twitter when we get started!

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Ryan and Deokmi sit on her octapang. He tells her that he had a dream. She asks if it was a scary dream? He says it was not just a dream, it was scary becaue it was his memory. The day he was abandoned at the orphanage. 

Ryan – Before I was adopted overseas, I don’t have much memory before 7, but that day I can remember vaguely. The feeling of ditching my hand holdly. That moment is so vivid.

DM – That’s why

Ryan – That is why I dont want to let go of peoples hands. I don’t want to experience that memory again of being abandoned.

DM – Are you okay now?

Ryan – Well we are together

DM – Then we should stay together all the time

Ryan – You aren’t going to let me sleep and then go to work

DM – Yeah, I had scary dreams when I was little, I didn’t remember what it was so I tortured my family. But those moments, Mom didn’t put me to sleep, she played with me all night. Tonight I will play with you all night.

Ryan – All night?

DM – Yes, lets go. But, once you get in, you can’t get out. Lets go!

They go inside and start to play Hwatu (GoStop). Deokmi tells her it is a very serious game that explains life. He is all like, is this what you wanted to do all night? She is all like, did you have something else in mind? He is all like noooooooooo. They start to talk about card games. Deokmi starts to explain Hwatu to Ryan about how much each point is for each one and which cards are the best, she is talking so fast and tells him that it is better to get a lot.

Ryan is so confused as Deokmi tells him that they should start. He will learn when he gets hit. Ryan is all like, get hit????

So they start playing and Deokmi is winning a lot, she says that she should say Go but she pities him so she has to stop and explain things again. She tells him that she gets two hits. She hits him and it looks like it hurts a lot, she asks if it hurt? And laughs. They start to play again, Ryan gets hit with big card after big card. He asks if they can jsut stop, it is no fun. He holds his arm out to get hit again.

She kisses it instead and asks if it is no fun? He says, maybe, it is a little fun. She was supposed to give him 5 hits so she gives him 5 kisses instead on his arm. Later on, they watch a comedy and cuddle on the couch as they drink wine and eat. They must watch a lot of movies as they stay awake all night and cuddle. At the end of the movie she tells him that this is nice. They are still on the couch cuddling with her head on his shoulder. She falls to sleep. 

He picks her up and puts her in her bed. Then he  tucks her in and kisses her on the forehead as she happily sleeps. he looks at her lovingly for a moment and then we see that he slept next to her in bed and held her hand. She wakes up and sees him, she is happy and remembers him coming by that night. She also remembers how sad he was earlier so she lightly touches his face as he sleeps and holds his hand again.





At the coffee shop, the part timer looks like he is a bit scared of Sunjoo as she asks him to do something for her, though she is a bit sarcastic and cold. But Deokmi comes in happily so Sunjoo goes to talk to her happilu. DM gives her a gift also so Sunjoo says they are the best fan girl friends and mentions that if you can’t spend time with your friend then you should at least spend money. She got her some ginseng so Sunjoo eats it as Deokmi tells her to take care of her health.

Deokmi asks how things are with her husband, Sunjoo says that she is sorry to make Deokmi worry and hands her a ginseng snack also. She tells Deokmi that she is going to make her husband super uncomfortable until he dies. Deokmi tells her to just forgive him, it is bad that he took the data without their consent, but it is partially their fault because it looks like we are stalking him. Sunjoo explains that sometimes you can’t solve man and woman problems with logic, it is an emotional matter.

Eunji comes in awkwardly and asks for an Americano awkwardly as he sits with them. They are all awkward as they talk about the weather and umbrellas. Deokmi looks at her watch and says that it is late! She heads off to work. Sunjoo asks Eunki if he confessed? Crazy! Why! Eunjoo just says that he couldn’t hold it forever. He heads out.

At the museum, Deokmi meets with Kyungah and then Cindy in the hall. She is happy to see that Cindy is there already. Kyungah takes Cindy’s tray of drinks and tells her to follow her.

Deokmi goes to ryan’s office, he is looking up how to play Hwatu so when Deokmi tells him “hi” over his shoulder he quickly pretends that he is typing something important and fails. So he has to tell her that he thinks she might have tricked him becuase she hit him so much. She asks if it hurt a lot? And gives him some baby motions.

In the meeting, they all look at Cindy’s little miniature art galleries that all look pretty cute. Ryan asks KA if they told the entertainers and the painters about it? KA says that she did, she gave them the proposal and all that, they were positive about it. Ryan provides more feedback on it as they realize that they are moving forward with this to sale. They give a bit more advice to Cindy and a thumbs up. 

Then they start to chat about publicity and all those details. Ryan says that the special exhibition is not that far away, so check on your work carefully. Yoosub asks KA what she is doing for the weekend. KA says that she is going to go to an orphanage for the weekend to volunteer. Ryan heads out as they talk about it. KA asks what DM is doing, lets all go there? YS kind of gives KS a no no no sign but fails.



At Deokmi’s parents house, Umma talks about how Ryan is a super good guy. She is talking to En=unki’s mother who knows that Eunki likes Deokmi. Umma tells Seyeon that Eunki will find a good woman, he is a good guy. Then Appa comes in to talk about things as a father in law. Umma tells him to just stop and leave, it is best when the father in law does not say anything.

In the cafe, Deokmi has changed her husbands name to Ex-husband now. the part timer asks her if she would like to go out and have fun today and close the cafe? She tells him that he is the employee, but she also asks him what he had in mind. they head out to a park where the part timer sets up his mic and guitar. He tells her that she is his fan so she has to stay as his audience while he plays.

So she stays and he telsl her that they should sing a song together. He gives her the song to follow along with the lyrics so she sings and he plays. Her husband sees them from across the way and says that she looks prettiest when she plays like that. He starts to think about the first time he met her as he watches her sing happily.

Meanwhile, Eunji works out in the judo studio. He sent a text to Deokmi about coming home but she did not answer. His mother shows up though and asks him if he is sick and tired of working out? He says that he is not, it is his job so he shouldnt’ get tired of it. Then he says he will take a shower and they can walk.

They walk outside, the sun has already set so they talk playfully about how tall he is and then start to talk about one-sided love and how she heard about Deokmi and the Director. She should have told her friend congratulations but was thinking about her son. He asks if it hurt her when she met appa? She says yes, she was the only one that liked him, she was pretty crazy back then. But it is nice now since she has this lovely son that she does not want to give to anyone. they both laugh as she says that he should meet a person that he likes and that person should like you too.

He wonders why it is so difficult to like someone. His heart just moves that way. He says his heart is not easy, it is more difficult than any other competition he was in. She tells him that she was not with him but he should not forget that he has a mom. then they walk off together.



The next day, we see that the entire museum team has met at the art museum to the orphanage to help out. Cindy is also there with her red sports car and lots of Shian things to make all the kids his fan. She also asks Deokmi if she broke up with the director since he is not there, but everyone gives her a bad look so she playfully says that this is just her habit. Deokmi says that Ryan was busy so he couldnt’ make it.

But then Ryan drives up and says that he is sorry to be late. they all start to hop in their cars to head there. Deokmi sees a bunch of toys in the back and asks about them. Ryan thinks back to being in his apartment and getting inside his elevator. He sees Shian who asked him where curator noona is. Ryan says that she went to an orphanage. Shian tells him to donate all his toys for him that fans gave him.

In the present, Deokmi blushes as she says her Shian is such an angel! Ryan smiles and says, it is time to head out! they drive there and we see all the kids playing happily inside and running around as kids do. Kyungah addresses them all and tells them that they are going to do a really really fun thing, you all have to sit for it.

She then starts to give a fun lesson on art paintings, the kids look super into it and give her all kinds of answers about the Starry Night painting. then they play soccer with them outside for a while as Ryan watches along.

This sends him into a memory with a girl he played with as a kid while he was at the orphanage. But the soccer ball rolls to him so Yoosub tells Ryan that he should join in. Join us director!


Deokmi is inside with Cindy, Cindy asks why they do this and just don’t support them with money? Does knowing about art change anything in their life when they cant buy it? But then she asks if that is also a Biatch question? Deokmi asks if Cindy fell in love with Shian at first sight? Cindy says of course. Deokmi asks if she can go back to a life without him? Cindy is all like, no! How can I forget Shian? He is in my heart, I became so happy because of him.

Deokmi tells her that art is the same. Money is important, but if we give them the joy of art then these kids life will be more fullfilled. I believe it because I live that life now. She then looks out the window and sees Ryan playing soccer with the kids. Cut to him pushing them on bicycles and riding a bicycle himself.

Later on, Deokmi sits in front of the kids for the kids to draw her face. KA says that they will put them on the wall. Lets start! So Deokmi sits there as all the kids start to draw her. Yoosub gives ryan some paper and tells him it is if he wants to draw his girlfriend. Ryan takes them, almost startled, thinks about it, then puts them on the chair next to him. 

One of the kids tells Deokmi not to move. She smiles and apologizes then tries to sit and not move for them. Cindy takes lots of photos. A little girl shows her drawing to Ryan and says that it is just like her. He shows it to Deokmi from a distance and smiles. the kids tell deokmi not to move again. She apologizes.

The little girl says she can draw Ryan too, so she starts to draw him. He tells her to give him bigger eyes and then hands her a few crayons.

Later on, they take photos of the kids with their drawings outside while Deokmi and ryan sit inside. She tells him that he should trace her hand not draw it. He says he is Ryan Gold…she tells him that she likes a tracing, it is cuter. So he starts to trace it, but he hits that wall that he has had for awhile with drawing things and can’t really put crayon to paper.



He thinks he might need another crayon. She decides to take the crayon and trace her own hand with his. So she does that and he watches her guide his hand around her hand. Then she tells him that her hands are pretty also. Now that her hand is done, she says she will trace his hand and starts to do that over her traced hand. They joke about it for a minute when the little girl runs back with her drawing of him.

She asks for his name and then says that it is pretty strange, dont’ you have a Korean name? She writes it on the image though and puts a heart next to it. Deokmi tells him that it is good for him since he is loved by a girl. 

They all head out later. Cindy wants to ride in Ryans nice car but they tell her no so she helps herself to the front seat of the employees car and Deokmi and Ryan head out.

Deokmi says she looks good in sunglasses and puts on a pair in the car, she thinks he wont’ be able to drive with her wearing them since she looks so good. They talk about him coming to the orphanage and the scenery and his face and how it is a 1987 art piece. they joke about that.

Much later on, Deokmi looks out over some water and thinks about Ryan’s Korean name. Ryan comes up to her with a coffee. She tells him that kids like him a lot. they start to walk. She asks him if he remembers his Korean name? he says he never liked it, it sounds like someone elses name. Deokmi apologizes for bringing it up. He tells her his name is Yoon-jae – Heo Yoon-jae. She says she really likes that name because it is the name of someone she likes. Hello Heo Yoon-jae.


Cut to the both of them at her place. He asks her how long she is going to hold his hand? She says she is not holding it. He asks if he is holding it? they count to 3 and let go. She asks him if he would like to eat a hand made dinner.

Montage of them making dinner playfully as they put flour all over each others faces and kiss and all those things. They eat the food happily as well.

Later on, Ryan looks at Deokmi’s hand drawing of them while he sits at home.

Deokmi is at home looking at photos from the orphanage. But then she has a memory of herself at the orphanage? She wonders what this is. But she is shook out of it as Ryan sends her a text. She thinks his Korean name is really pretty and then starts to google it.

In the judo studio, Eunki is about to sleep in his tent, but then gets a call about a drunken women. He heads out to a bar where Dain is drinking happily. She sees him and then tells the bartender that she told him that she knows him. We see a Judo add on the bar that has Eunki in it. Dain says that she heard that the bartender is your fan, I told him that I know you but he did not believe me. The bartender asks for his signature. Eunki asks, what about a judo throw? The bartender tells him that signing is fine. So Eunki signs it.

Dain asks if he hates her? Eunki is all like, oh, you already know, I was about to tell you that. She says that she does not have any friends anymore. no, she has one that she pretends to a be a friend with, but it is hard to meet him as a pretend friend now. She gives him a drink and says that they are friends now right? Eunki sits and says that only for today. He thinks she will be a hard friend to have.

they start to talk about how she confessed to Ryan and how Ryan really likes Deokmi. She has never seen his face look like that before. She thinks she should give up now and at least have him as a friend in her life. Eunki thinks about this as well.



Eunki wakes up in his judo studio with Dain right there in the tent. She wakes up and remembers what happened last night and thinks that she deserves to get yelled at. Eunki yells in his dream which makes her stare at him as she sneaks out. 

She sneaks all the way out but sees a note that he left her on her bag. He wrote that he can be her drinking friend sometimes, but only the first round. She smiles and heads out.

In the museum, Deokmi gets word that the painting is done being restored. She happily says that he can bring it by. the person says that he has never heard her be so bright, do you have a relationship with the painting? She says yes and then gets off the phone. The employees starts to talk about he painting that is Lee Sol’s painting. they think that the artist is so elusive about everything so they are interested in it.

Deokmi heads out to see Ryan about it while remembering how emotional he was seeing the painting for the first time. She knocks on his door and tells him that the restoration is done. Then she heads out and is met by the former director walking with her dress up like a crazy woman as she tells them all good morning with her bright smile. She tells them that she is the chair person at the cutlural center, Eom So-hye. Then she happily goes into Ryans office and sits to chat.

Ryan sits with her as they talk about how it is nice to see her. they go back and forth with frivolous things as they both smile at each other. then she tells him that they will do no exhibition with entertainers. Cindy goes inside and says that she came up with the idea. She holds one of her mini pieces. But her mother tells her that she should leave, she is not a person to work on things like that.

Cindy asks her mother why she does not ask her what she likes and what she wants to do? Why aren’t you interested in me, I am your daughter. Sohye asks if she thinks she does not know anything about her? Cindy says that Curator Sung gave her work she can do well and Curator Yoo helped her and Yoosub supported her and the director believed in her. She wants to continue working there, it is not about Cha Shian, she actually likes the work.

Eom tells her that whatever it takes, there will be no Idols. Cindy drops her car keys and credit card. She tells her that she wants to work on the exhibition and to keep making this product. Otherwise no one will be next to you, inlcluding me.

the employees run into a side room to talk. YS asks what is going on, KA says that no one wins over their own kids.

Cindy heads out and sees Deokmi who smiles at her. 

Eom is all fluttery eyed and hot faces as she gets fanned by the chairman. Ryan smiles.

Later on, Deokmi and Ryan have a fun moment with a tiny Shian doll.



Cut to a mysterious lady in a church. She is praying and thinking about a child.

In the museum, the employees wonder if they can go home. Deokmi tells them that they can all go home, she can do the extra work tonight. So Yoosub asks Cindy and KA if they want a drink. Cindy says she will have a last war at home. KA tells her that she was cool back there. Yoosub tells her that he will teach her how to ride a bus.

Elsewhere, we see the mysterious woman getting driven in a car and talking to the manager about surprising Shian. Cut to her surprising him in his studio as he works hard. He is super happy to see her so they hug it out a bunch and talk about how much they missed each other.

Meanwhile, Ryan is at the museum looking at the restored painting which is in his office. Deokmi comes in to sit with him as he looks at it. 

Ryan – When a woman had a hard time, she looked at a painting, that is why.

DM – Some woman? Well, that is good, we can do the exhibition.

Ryan – It is good.

DM – I have a question.

Ryan – If you have a question then that means that you like something…

DM – You have two paintings of Lee Sol, when was the first time you saw it?

Ryan – three years ago at a gallery in New York. that is where it started. I couldnt’ paint anymore. I can’t draw anymore. You know that right? At first I thought it would be okay. I tortured my doctor friend, but there was no answer. that is why I went back to the painting. It happened becuase of Lee Sol, so I thought it would change if I collected all of them. But I have seen this painting before, not three years ago, a lot, a lot before. When I was little.

DM – When you were little?

Ryan – Before I was Ryan. When I was Heo Yoon-jae. I saw someone drawing it.

DM – You saw someone painting it? You saw Lee Sol’s painting?

Ryan – I saw painter Lee Sol. I think I know her.

Cut to Shian and his mother.

Shian – Mom, dont’ be surprised, I am collecting paintings to have an exhibition. 

Mother – Paintings?

Shian – You paintings with you name of Lee Sol

Ryan – I think she was probably my mother. It is strange right? I dont’ remember who drew it. I dont’ remember the face but I still remember the painting itself.

DM – that is why. Even though you say everything is okay, your heart is not okay because it cannot be okay.

She looks at him, concernedly and then cradles his head on her as they hold hands. It is a nice moment of comfort for Ryan.

Fade Out



The mama drama is coming! Too bad there was no preview at the end of the episode. But, I can feel the paaaaaain all the way to next week.


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  1. Rose
    May 16, 2019 / 10:45 am

    So Shian and Ryan are brothers? Why did she abandoned Ryan?

    Thanks V for the recap! 🙂

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:51 am

      There are a few pretty good theories in the comments about that. One is that Ryan might have also been a kid that Deokmi’s mother tried to raise, but then left at the orphanage. It really makes me wonder if that is why Deokmi’s mother is always in a bit of a sad-thoughtful-regretful mood around Eunki. It could be because he is the one that she kept around and always wonders about the other boy.

    May 16, 2019 / 10:46 am

    from this episode i kind of could infer something .
    1) shin and ryan are sibling
    2)lee sol must be shian and ryan’s mother
    3) deok mi and ryan must be knowing each other from childhood .. i guess
    main drama is starting now . cant wait for next week episode .thanks for the update V ..

    • Anonymous
      May 16, 2019 / 8:11 pm


    • Rose
      May 17, 2019 / 5:25 am

      I just finished watching the sub episode. ☺
      @Blossom, i agree with all your theories. May i just add that i think DM and Ryan were neighbors when they were kids. Ryan said thay he cant remember anything before he was 7, and i can understand that. Most of the time you only remember bits and pieces of your childhood unless it has a great impact in you mentally and emotionally. In Ryans case i think its more on a defense mechanism thats why he cant remember anything before he was 7 except when he was abandoned.

      Why no preview??? 😭

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:49 am

      I think the same things!

  3. Rose
    May 16, 2019 / 10:47 am

    Btw, i can browse faster now 😁

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:55 am

      Yay! We decided to get rid of the ads because they were annoying the bejeezus out of us and affecting our site a lot. SOOOOOOOO happy that you notice a difference in browsing!

  4. Fangurl
    May 16, 2019 / 12:48 pm

    Poor Ryan

    So He is Shian real Hyung.

    Cindy is growing up

    Here comes the pain

  5. tunbabe
    May 16, 2019 / 2:05 pm

    omo i think sung deok mi is an adopted child and her mum probably met eun gi’s mother when she was trying to abadon him at the orphanage…..my guess though but🤔🤔🤔

    • auj
      May 16, 2019 / 11:08 pm

      This is a very nice premonition!

    • Rose
      May 17, 2019 / 5:31 am

      My theory is that DM and Ryan were once neighbors when they were kids. That can also a possibility. I can see a scenario that DMs mom and Lee Sol might accidentally meet in the museum during the exhibit and recognize each other, and knowing DMs mom who isnt afraid to say whats in her mind, mind suddenly ask how was his son, then she will say his name then DM and Ryan will hear that….then the idol suddenly will call her mom and introduced her to DM and Ryan…..that will be the most akwards situation i can possibly think that will happen.

      • V
        May 20, 2019 / 7:48 am

        Love this theory, too! I wonder if this might happen?

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:54 am

      Oh, I never thought of Deokmi as the adopted one, interested to find out!

  6. ERXI
    May 16, 2019 / 8:10 pm

    I’m so excited for next week, so much Mama drama on the way!

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:53 am

      I feel like the mama drama is radiating to the moon with this show 😋

  7. MF
    May 17, 2019 / 12:04 am

    Thanks for the recap. And it seems shian and Ryan are siblings most probably Deokmi knows Ryan when he was little. Sometimes eomma was soooooooo fond of him when he was young it seems.

  8. SK
    May 18, 2019 / 1:17 am

    I have a feeling DM and Ryan may have met at the orphanage when they were little? And Ryan wanted to follow them home – and that’s when DM’s mum told him that she’s not HIS mum!

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:47 am

      Love this theory!

  9. Anonymous
    May 18, 2019 / 9:17 am

    May I know the song that seonju is singing with the part timer? I very much fond of the song 😍

    • Anonymous
      June 22, 2019 / 12:34 am

      I wanna know the song too:))

      • V
        August 3, 2019 / 12:32 pm


  10. lisa
    May 20, 2019 / 4:51 am

    ok i just gotta say this but park min young’s role in this drama is literally exactly the same as in what’s wrong with secretary kim, the love interest of a talented and charismatic man who has some kind of issue or trauma that holds him back. she’s the sweet cute woman that lets them cry on her shoulder. ngl it’s getting annoying seeing her play the same roles again and again…

    • V
      May 20, 2019 / 7:47 am

      The last two episodes made me think the exact same thing! She needs to watch her next role in order to not be type cast in the future. Though I do wonder if she thought the role was one way and it turned into a “Secretary Kim” type role toward the middle.

  11. Anonymous
    May 22, 2019 / 5:46 am

    What’s the name of background song when Dain and Eunki drank together???

    • Devy Pink
      July 30, 2019 / 10:12 am

      The song is Make it Count by Chen (Exo) from Korean drama titled Touch Your Heart

      • V
        July 30, 2019 / 10:30 am

        Thank you Devy Pink!

        • Devy Pink
          July 30, 2019 / 10:59 am

          Okay. You’re welcome

    • V
      August 3, 2019 / 12:33 pm

      You are the best 🙂

  12. Anonymous
    January 25, 2020 / 8:18 am

    Bän sana hayranym Ryan Gold😍😍😍😍😍

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